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Just finished my last read for 2021. I love life s

Just finished my last read for 2021.
I love life stories. I guess this is one of the reasons I decided to become a therapist. When I’m in the car as a passenger, I often times try to imagine who lived behind an old door I pass by. Whose lives unfolded there.
But what I am most curious about is how one’s survival style influenced their life’s path and what was their breakthrough awakening moment of deciding to live outside those coping mechanisms, of seeing the truth of who they really are.
“Something bad happens to us, and we decide we’re never going to let that happen again. But in order to prevent it, we have to be a certain way. We choose the behaviors that we believe will deliver safety, stability and love. And we repeat them, over and over again. In the movies, we call it a character; in real life, we call it personality. How we decide to respond to our fears, that is the person we become. I decided to be funny”. @willsmith
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#willsmith #will #bookstagram #books #booklover #life #lifestory #autobiography #inspiration #awareness #breakthrough #transformation #healing #connection #freedom #herosjourney #journey #souljourney

Ce face ca viata sa merite sa fie traita atunci ca

Ce face ca viata sa merite sa fie traita atunci cand moartea e aproape? O poveste despre sfarsituri, inceputuri si despre a da mai departe.
Yalom spunea ca, cu cat viata este mai netraita, cu atat mai mare este anxietatea fata de moarte. Fiecare sfarsit de an e un prilej de introspectie: oare cat de mult ti-ai trait viata? Ce ai face daca ai sti ca mai ai putin de trait? Ce este prioritar in viata ta?
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#paulkalanithi #books #booklover #bookstagram #cuultimasuflare #whenbreathbecomesair

Am citit-o dintr-o suflare, caci am vrut-o pe toat

Am citit-o dintr-o suflare, caci am vrut-o pe toata deodata asa cum am vrut toata cutia de Cavit cand eram mica.
Am primit-o pe mama Laurei in suflet, am iubit-o si m-am suparat pe ea, toate deodata. Iar durerea Laurei am lasat-o sa-mi iasa prin ochi si am suflat-o asa cum sufli o papadie, gandindu-ma ca prin fiecare dintre noi durerea ei si durerea propriilor noastre povesti se unesc si se duc spre cer ca fumul care iese pe horn intr-o zi de iarna.
Tare frumos ai mai scris @luluts ! Iti multumesc ca ne-ai primit in povestea ta care ne face sa ne uitam mai indeaproape la a noastra! ❤️ #nutegasescpenicaieri #lauraionescu #booklover #books #bookstagram #cartidesuflet #narator @editurapublica

De multe ori, in spatele emotiei pe care o simtim

De multe ori, in spatele emotiei pe care o simtim in mod obisnuit in anumite situatii mai este o alta.
De exemplu, daca atunci cand suntem mici si simtim furie, ni se spune ca nu avem voie sa fim furiosi sau din contra suntem pedepsiti, adultul rupe conexiunea/contactul sau devine mai furios decat noi, ajungem sa o inhibam. Invatam ca respectiva emotie e “rea”, “face ravagii”, ne provoaca frica.
Asa ca, in loc sa protestam atunci cand poate nu ne este adresata o nevoie in mod constant, suntem tristi, ne deconectam ne noi insine, intram mai degraba intr-o stare de inghet, de renuntare.
Asa ca simtim acea emotie “default” care se vede prima data: plangem cu usurinta, suntem tristi. Insa in spate este si multa furie, acel protest care nu a fost primit, protest pe care l-am internalizat si directionat catre noi insine (auto-critica, judecata de sine, respingere de sine).

Ce emotie simti/exprimi cu usurinta? Si ce e in spatele ei?

Papusile terapeutice au rolul de a-ti arata si alte parti din tine pe care poate nu le vezi uneori sau ti-e greu sa le exprimi. Le poti folosi si cu copiii tai sau chiar in procesele de terapie/coaching.
@papusidepoveste
#papusihandmade #papusi #papusilacomanda #papusiterapeutice #handmade #cadouri #terapie #terapieprinjoaca #psihologie #coach #coaching

As I was looking for something to help me relax an

As I was looking for something to help me relax and stop pushing myself, yesterday I run into a coloring book which I received a couple of years ago. What was interesting was that during today’s online class I listened to the material being delivered to us while coloring. And it was not distracting at all. On the contrary, I felt I could pay more attention to the teaching material.
Sometimes, after a week full of on-line workshops, meetings, client sessions, attending another class during the weekend might feel too much. I might feel tired and unable to focus, and it is difficult for me to just sit on the chair in front of the screen. Coloring helped me calm my thoughts and keep my focus during today’s classes.
#coloringforadults #coloringbook #color #focus #learning #studentlife #psychology #therapy #mindful #mindfulness #awareness #consciousness #grow #growth #mindset #mind #mindfulmoments

6 questions to ask yourself about your triggers.

6 questions to ask yourself about your triggers.
Are there any other questions you would add? #exploration #compassion #trauma #traumaresponse #traumahealing #coaching #psychoterapy #psychology #selfinquiry #compassionateinquiry #breathe #awareness #mindfulness #selflove #selfcare

Compassionate Inquiry Circles are interactive, fac

Compassionate Inquiry Circles are interactive, facilitated, experiential group sessions that introduce participants to key concepts and practices in CI, and initiate the process of Self-Inquiry. We are pleased to announce that applications are now open for the first-ever sessions of CI Circles, which will start in January 2022. Come join us to learn more about this new opportunity!

We invite you to join us in a Live Q&A Info Session on Saturday, November 20 at 11 a.m. ET hosted by Sat Dharam Kaur ND for anyone who is interested in learning more about the CI Circles. Follow the link in Bio to register for the Q&A event.
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#compassionateinquiry #gabormate #cicircles #selfinquiry #exploration #trauma #healing #bodypositivity #body #acceptance #expression #traumatherapy #therapygroups #growth #group #online

I just completed another great book by @irvindyalo

I just completed another great book by @irvindyalom
What I love most about the way he writes is his authenticity. I felt teleported in his office, during the sessions with his clients and enjoyed the experience of expectancy: how will the client respond, what would be Irvin’s next step? I also love the moments of self reflection Irvin exposes in relation to counter transference and own feelings towards his clients. Such a gift! ❤️
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#irvinyalom #yalom #yalomreader #lovesexecutioner #psychology #psychotherapy #therapy #talesofpsychotherapy #psychologist #psychotherapist #healing #growth #selfawareness #consciousness #books #booklover #reader #igbooks

Such a great book to listen to on @audible . What

Such a great book to listen to on @audible .

What if instead of asking “what is wrong with you?” we would look beyond the behavior, survival strategy / adaptation and ask “What happened to you?” instead? I think this will bring more compassion to the humanity, which we all need especially during these challenging times.

And the first step towards that would be to look into our own adaptations without judgement, but with curiosity and compassion.

Knowing what happened to you is very important in the healing process. And by that I don’t necessarily refer to a big-T trauma, event, abuse, parent’s divorce or addiction or other adverse childhood experience (ACE), but also to the “invisible” trauma of not having your own needs met, not having your boundaries respected, not being held nor attuned, not being seen.

What I like most about autumn is how beautiful let

What I like most about autumn is how beautiful letting go looks like. It took me years to understand that by doing less you actually do more: when you get out of your own way you notice how things beautifully align; when you give up on the idea that you “have to” and “should” you create space for “being” to beautifully unfold in ways you never imagined. What are you letting go of this autumn?

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