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I’ve been delivering Safe and Sound protocol to

I’ve been delivering Safe and Sound protocol to clients for more than 2 years and it’s always a joy to witness people’s unique journey towards a better nervous system regulation.
As the nervous system receives signals of safety, defenses go down and people connect to emotions and sometimes repressed memories. The SSP is not meant to be a stand alone therapy and it works wonderful when there is some processing of what comes up during and after the listening sessions.
If you want to have a taste of the SSP, I now offer listening sessions as part of the therapy sessions: 50 min therapy + 15 min listening and processing (90 min in total).
Reach out if you want to find out more.
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#safeandsound #safeandsoundprotocol #stephenporges #polyvagaltheory #vagusnerve #vagusnervestimulation #nervoussystemregulation #anxiety #trauma #adhd #autism #psychology #therapy #healing #mindbodysoul #mindbodyspirit

Tomorrow I am starting another journey of compassi

Tomorrow I am starting another journey of compassion with 13 participants from USA, Canada, India, Dubai, London, Israel & Switzerland. This is the 4th cohort of Compassionate Inquiry circles I am going to facilitate and I am so excited for a number of reasons:
- with each group there is a different energy, and each groups brings different personal themes for me as all, so it’s an accelerated growth process;
- It’s always amazing to witness how people from different backgrounds & countries connect with one another. I love the healing power of the group;
- We might not speak the same native language, but the language of compassion travels through time zones and screens. So I am so looking forward to witness yet another group being touched by true compassion.

Compassionate Inquiry circles are 10 weeks experiential group sessions, based on the psychotherapeutic approach developed by Dr Gabor Mate and Sat Dharam Kaur.

Weekly Themes Include:

* Week 1: Orientation Session
* Week 2: Safety through Connection
* Week 3: Access the Wisdom of the Body
* Week 4: Explore Your Triggers
* Week 5: Know What Happened to You
* Week 6: Express Your Authenticity
* Week 7: Address Your Needs
* Week 8: Practice Self-Compassion for All Parts of You
* Week 9: Be Response-Able
* Week 10: Affirm the Possibility within You

If you missed the enrollment for this September cohort, there is another opportunity to join a CI circle group which will start on Oct 29th followed by trauma sensitive yoga sessions and mindfulness lead by @trauma_sensitive_healing (link in bio)

Just finished @officiallymcconaughey book. I love

Just finished @officiallymcconaughey book. I love reading people’s stories, their journeys in life and how they thrived. When I finished Matthew’s book, I had this “I would have wanted more” type of feeling. It is entertaining, easy to read, with some nuggets to reflect upon. It’s like a romantic comedy. It’s funny at places, disconnects you, but it lacks depth. I felt like he wanted to tell more sometimes but he couldn’t or choose not, which unsettles me in a way. Have you read it? Let me know in the comments.
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#matthewmcconaughey #greenlightsbook #greenlights #lifestory #bookstagram #book #booklover #journey #souljourney

Some reflections further to the talk between @iamd

Some reflections further to the talk between @iamdavidkessler and @gabormatemd

1. The myth of normal
We talk a lot about what is and what isn't normal. "You're not acting normal", "This is not normal", etc. But actually "normal" is different for everybody.
If you grew up in an environment where there was a lot of abuse and fighting, this might be the normal for you. And is not uncommon to look for that "normal" in adult relationships as well.
Yesterday, I was working on a subtitle for a video recording with Gabor and a participant to one of his workshops, and the participant was saying that she feels she doesn't belong anywhere. There were communities where she experienced a lot of joy to be with, but still there was the idea of "I'm not like them". When Gabor asked her who she is, what is present for her, she described the heart space as her center, being a person who lives from the heart. And so the question was: Is it normal to live from the heart or not? And since we live in a world who doesn't live from the heart, we might thing it is not normal.
I loved how one of the participants to one of my CI circles found another word for normal, which is "common". So instead of saying "This is not normal; I am not normal", which comes with a tone of judgement, we might say: "It is common for people to....but for me this is what is true..."

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Just finished reading #educated by @itsmetarajane

Just finished reading #educated by @itsmetarajane . Though I had it in my library for a while, when I finally started reading it I just couldn't put it down. It is a very powerful book in many different ways.

Here are some key ideas:

- Self-built reality

Tara describes different ways she was coping with the abuse, the hurt, the pain she experienced in the dysfunctional family she grew up in. One of the ways was to create her own reality, denying the truth of her experience. It is not uncommon for people to create a different reality as a way to cope with what happened.

"Reflecting on it now, I'm not sure the injury changed him that much, but I convinced myself that it had, and that cruelty on his part was entirely new..."

It is more easy to believe we are wrong as people, we are broken somehow than to see the dysfunctions in our environment. Why? because it gives us a sense of control. "If I am bad I will try to do everything right, to please, to deny my own self". A child cannot perceive itself as a good person in a bad environment.

Other ways she coped was by making herself strong, appearing as if nothing could touch her even if she experienced tremendous levels of pain. She would laugh, minimize, deny. Asking for help was not an option, and even useless since her family which should have been her source of safety was the source of pain.
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Join me and @trauma_sensitive_healing for a live Q

Join me and @trauma_sensitive_healing for a live Q&A session tomorrow, Saturday, August 27th, 11:00 am EST (18:00 Romanian time).

We will talk about CI circles and Trauma Sensitive Yoga and Mindfulness sessions as part of a 10 weeks journey.

Link in bio

If you cannot make it to the sessions, write your questions in the comments section below. .
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#traumahealing #traumasensitiveyoga #compassionateinquiry #compassion #selfcare #gabormate #yoga #therapy #grouptherapy

In our Compassionate Inquiry Circles and Trauma Se

In our Compassionate Inquiry Circles and Trauma Sensitive Yoga (TCTSY), we work with both ✅ mind and ✅ body. Through thoughtful and carefully designed inquiries, we reflect on the root of what’s affecting us today. Through somatic practice, we bring the mind and body together. The other significant ingredient is ✅ community! The small group setting creates safe container for exploration and sharing. In one of my favorite quotes, Judith Lewis Herman says “Recovery can take place only in the context of relationships; it cannot occur in isolation.”

So take a step and join us for the free Q&A this Saturday. Link in bio

#trauma #recovery #mind #body #connection #health #wellbeing #safe #safety #compassion #selfcare #community

Some thoughts about today: I’ve been wanting t

Some thoughts about today:

I’ve been wanting to cry since I woke up, but I can’t. Something is holding me back. I notice the judging part: “you don’t have any reason to cry, why should you?”. So I believe it and let it go. As if tears should only come in special occasions.

There are so many themes I’m exploring, most of which are mirrored by my clients. I reflect on the ways I used to make myself small to not be a threat to anyone. It’s safer when you’re struggling. And when I write this I can also think of some cultural beliefs such as “if you’re successful you will have enemies, people would want what you have, so you are a threat.”
Which takes me to the next theme: “How can I allow myself to feel joy in a world where there is so much suffering?”
When we were babies, there was no distinction between ourselves and the environment. We would absorb/match the energy and not know how to release it. Plus, very often, when somebody else suffered, we were not allowed to feel something different, or considered selfish if that happened.
If you allow yourself to feel joy and allow the flow of life to fill you up, it doesn’t mean that you lack compassion for the ones in pain. Both can coexist. Many time we think there is “either”, “or”. As babies we wouldn’t have the capacity to contain them both, now we can.

Another theme comes up. And when I witness it, I can feel the tears. I am deeply touched by the pain of the “easy child”, “good child”, the one who would always perform, do its homework but is not being attuned to, nor seen. When most of the parent’s attention goes to the child who has challenges, there is very little left for the “easy child”. “You can handle it, you are stronger, you know better than your brother/sister”. But nobody asks the “good kid”, “How was that for you? How do you feel?” so it will continue to perform/please in the hopes of some recognition, which doesn’t come. The prizes are maybe seen but the person who took them it rarely is.

I am grateful for the mirrors and look at the “good child” and say: “I see you. How are u doing?”

@trauma_sensitive_healing : ”A big ol’ questio

@trauma_sensitive_healing : ”A big ol’ question, right? Something I’ve asked myself when I started on my self-discovery journey and was looking for answers. And definitely a question that comes up, in one form or another, when working with clients.
The “good” and the “bad” news is that when we are at this point where we ask ourselves this question, we’re probably in (a lot of) pain, which is also the point where change starts to happen. We are no longer comfortable where we are, so we are looking for answers.
The methodology in our Compassionate Inquiry Circles, developed by Gabor Maté, provides the container for safe inquiry, and the support to process the insights. Then, through trauma-sensitive yoga (TCTSY), which has been specifically created and validated for complex trauma and treatment resistant PTSD, you can re-learn to feel safe in your body again. ”
Trauma Sensitive Healing
✅ Join us for a live Q&A, this Saturday at 11am EST.

Link in bio
#traumarecovery #traumahealing #trauma #healing #yoga #traumasensitiveyoga #movement #unlock #transform #selfcare #selflove #compassionateinquiry #gabormate #davidemerson

What is Compassion? Compassion originates from th

What is Compassion?

Compassion originates from the Latin word "compati" which means "to suffer with".

Compassion involves action, is like a stress response: it begins with the initial awareness that something is wrong, or recognition of some sort of suffering (you become aware there's some suffering or pain in yourself or in others). It's not niceness or feeling calm, but actually an act of courage.

Specific brain regions activate as compassion unfolds, our neurobiology shifts and capacity to tolerate distress expands. The fear circuitry goes down and caregiving and reward circuitry increases, so it's distress with a centered feeling.

For compassion to continue to unfold, there has to be a sense of connection to the one who is suffering, or just a recognition of the common humanity.

"Compassion is the daily practice of recognizing and accepting our shared humanity so that we treat ourselves and others with loving-kindness and we take action in the face of suffering."

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